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My Aunt Peg
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“My Aunt Peg” By Trudy A. Martinez How do I describe my Aunt Peg? I have difficulty finding enough adjectives. She once told me, "God broke that mold when I was born." She was born on April 19, 1917 to her parents: Blanche Jones and David Smith. I think she was right--the mold was broken--because the Aunt Peg I knew was one of a kind. Of course, she was always right! She said, "It's was my parents fault!" And when I asked her what she meant she said, "Anytime you put a blank-ka-de-blank Smith with a blank-ka-de-blank Jones--you're bound to get something unusual!" And unusual she was! She made a lasting impression on everyone she met and I know she did on me. In preparation of this service, I was going to share a few moments with a collage of pictures. I needed something to put the pictures on. At first, I thought I'd use one of Peg's quilts--but I didn't want to take a chance of messing up one of her masterpieces. So I got into this box Aunt Peg had shown me that had some sample patterns she had fixed so I'd be able to figure out how to put them together. Beautiful Patterns--but they were put together where everything fit together perfectly--uniform like--you know what I mean? But as Aunt Peg always said, "You can't put a square PEG into a round hole." The perfect patterns were Aunt Peg's creations--Aunt Peg was not perfect. So I certainly couldn't fit MY AUNT PEG on a uniform pattern--She'd look out of place! So I dug to the bottom of this box, there I found--I found these unusual little squares that Peg made--they didn't match--yet they did--what I mean--is the squares didn't match each other--but when I sewed them all together--they matched my Aunt Peg! --as a result I had a peculiar quilt! I think she’d be proud--that the first quilt I attempted represents her life. Those bunch of squares looked like they were put together without rhyme or reason! There are still rough edges on the quilt. But I think you'll agree: My Aunt Peg had a lot of rough edges! The lines go every which way---in all directions. Her life did the same. I was asked what my Aunt's occupation was. I couldn't answer that question with one answer. Because in her life time, she had many occupations: She told me once--she drove a one of those big trucks. The owner of the truck wired four by four's to peddles, so her short legs could reach them. Texas had both wet and dry counties. She attempted to make them all wet by running bootleg in that truck over those county lines. I didn't believe her. But her dad, my granddad, confirmed it. She worked on the assembly lines during world-war II, making radios. She drove a greyhound bus across the United States. She sang in a Nightclub. Her favorite song was "Peg of my heart I LOVE YOU!" She was a hairdresser. It was 1936 when my mother and Aunt Peg's life were thrown together. As my mom tells it, Peg thumbed (hitchhiked) her way back to Texas. When she got to Texas, she got Don Mac Kennzie’s (her second husband) Open Top T Model Ford, one of those one-seat-jobs with the rumble seat in the back and NO TOP, picked up my mom, and headed for California. To make a long story short, the highlight of their trip took place somewhere outside of San Diego on a hill or mountain with an elevation of 6,000 ft. It was freezing cold. And it was Middle-of-the-night. The brakes on the car went out. Peg, as stubborn as she was, was determined to make it down that hill, brakes or not. So she took my mom's quilts and threw them over mom's head, telling her to keep her head down and then she took off down the mountain without any brakes. That was only the beginning. Aunt Peg ran without brakes ever since. The diagonal pattern that extends top right corner of the quilt to the bottom left corner represents her travel through life. Very few of her occupations were rewarded with money. And very few squares in the quilt have the money green color. However, the PEA GREEN color (as she called it) can be seen through out the quilt. This color represents the occupations she took on without reward and the outward-stretched lines of the diagonal pattern represent her giving nature: 1. She was a Nurse. She cared for her sick mother, My Granny Blanche, for years--until she died in 1957 at the age of 63. 2. She was a relief mother to my mother, Nellie De Juan. The only vacation my mother ever got was when My Aunt Peg hauled all four of us monsters off with her for the experiences of our lifetimes. The experiences we had on those trips could fill a book. Once, (and only once that I can recall) I gave her some problems. It all started with her sticking up for me and being protective of me like a mother hen. But My Aunt Peg, with her colorful speech and fiery eyes, got herself arrested for being drunk and disorderly when all she had had to drink was coke-a-cola--and it was my fault! My granddad let her sit in jail for a day to cool off, for fear she might kill me. On the way home that same trip, she stopped at a greyhound bus station, bought a ticket, and put me on it, thinking I was headed for home. However, that didn't happen. The bus broke down, leaving me stranded in Las Vegas for eight hours. And when I finally got home--my mom had moved. It took me two days to find her. And then the feathers flew--I'm not going to go into what happened to me and My Aunt Peg when my mother got wind of it. 3. She was a seamstress and dressmaker. Every year a few weeks before school started, we all went to Aunt Peg's and Granny's. There Aunt Peg, cut and sewed our entire wardrobe for the coming school year. On one of those trips Granny told me, "Your Aunt Peg is all bark and no bite! She yells and hollers to keep control." She said it had something to do with her being so short. Her brother, my dad, was 6' 4" and yelling and screaming kept him at arms length. And we were getting so big she was scared we'd clobber her someday the way he did. Granny, without Aunt Peg's knowledge, egged me on to get her down in a hammer hold and make her say uncle. When I did, my Granny laughed so hard--I thought she was going to keel over and die laughing. However, now that I had her pinned, what was I going to do? I couldn't get up for fear of death. You would have thought I had pinned a sailor who had been out to sea too long. Aunt Peg's voice got hoarse before she said UNCLE--I still didn't let her up until she promised she wasn't going to kill me and I didn't EVEN then --until she started laughing. 4. She was a teacher. My Aunt Peg and Granny had their own chickens in her backyard in Los Angeles. It was quite a sight to see her chase the chickens around the yard. I didn't watch the rest. Then she brought the chicken in the house, minus its head, plopped it in a pan of boiling water, and told me it was my job to clean it. I plucked the feathers. I managed that feat and I thought I was through. However, Aunt Peg said I wasn't. I had to clean it too. All my excuses: "I'm only nine (9)" "Get my brother--he loves to do gory stuff", failed. She stood behind me--I cried--but I cleaned the chicken, pulling out an egg I quenched and said, "There's an egg in here," and Aunt Peg replied in her colorful manner: "Where did you think a blank-ka-de-blank egg comes from?" With this experience and many, many others, she instilled in me this feeling that there The words "I can't" were not in her vocabulary. Even though she only completed the eighth grade, she was not handicapped because of her lack of education. She was her own teacher. She taught herself through trial an error. She could repair a car better than most men--if she wanted to. My Granddad use to call her "His little grease monkey". Her brother relied on her to fix his car when it broke down. She had said, "I wasn't born with a silver spoon in my mouth, I was born with a wrench in my hand." 5. She was a gardener and farmer. She loved flowers and plants of all kinds. Her favorite flower was the "Poor Man's Orchid" (Iris). She was never rich with material wealth. When she lived in the country side of Guadeloupe, California, we located her house for the first time by her fence of "Poor Man's Orchid's". Pete said, “We're here--this is got to be your Aunt's!" He was right! 6. She Leather tooled. She made wallets, purses, belts, watch bands, and the like. You had to be special to receive a gift made by her. She did beautiful work. She was an Artist. 7. She was a Quilt maker, self taught at the age of 55. Her quilts were as unique, as she. 8. She was my Aunt. Her life went in all directions, just as the lines of the unfinished quilt. She had a zest for life. She learned to ride a motorcycle along with my Uncle Chris late in life after she moved to Ridgecrest because of her health in 1974. As you can see by one of the pictures on the quilt, she also attempted riding a Go-cart. She'd try anything once. Those that knew her knew how generous she was: She would give you the shirt off her if you needed it. The gingham checks represent--the little bit of country that will always remind me of her. The bright colors and flowers represent the way she lived her life and her colorful and flowery speech she shared with those who didn't want to do things her way. The red represents her fiery temper. Even in her death, my Aunt helped me. I was having problems describing her, until I put her little block pieces together and let the pieces she left for me, unknowingly, do it for me. The quilt describes her best--it is unique, just as she was. In the hospital, when she was stripped of her speech because her vocal cords had been paralyzed from the respiratory tube down her throat, I had an opportunity to communicate her needs for her. I told her to mouth her words and I would read her lips. I told her to go slow because I was rusty. She did. I repeated her words, she nodded. Then I asked her a question--I don't remember the question, but I'll never forget the answer. I was speaking her words out loud to ensure what she said was what I was reading from her lips. I asked the question. And she mouthed "Hello". I said, "Hello". Her facial expression expressed a question mark. And my sister-in-law, Emily Marquez started laughing and told me she did not say "Hello"--She said, "Hell No!" I turned to My Aunt Peg and said, "That's not fair, you have to use words that are in my vocabulary." And Aunt Peg nearly choked to death from trying to laugh. -Trudy Martinez- Emilie's Miracle by Trudy A. Martinezgramashouse0ne.spaces.live.com
Emilie's Miracle
By Trudy A. Martinez
What shall I say about my best friend, my sister, Emilie Marquez? Emilie asked if I would talk about our experiences together. But which ones where left up to me? We shared so many. Starting back in 1958 the year she married Benjamin, it took two to tango, two to really get the feeling of romance. In my eyes as ballroom dancers, they were romantics. It was then Emilie danced her way into my heart.
More recently the concept of romantic was expanded. My granddaughter, Sandra, wrote me an e-mail which started out with "Grama, you are such a romantic! I am so excited about coming to visit." Before I could scroll down, my mind raced. What did I do now? I didn't even have a boyfriend.
Sandra went on to say, "Dad just told me Aunt Emilie is on her way to your house. Please give her my love and tell her that I will be there soon to see her. She is such a strong woman and I have always looked up to her. My love and prayers are with you both."
When I read the e-mail, Emilie was right at my side. It was the middle of the night. We were having a pajama party! That was a treasured moment when Emilie smiled from ear to ear from the praise and love that was singing out to her from the words on the page. My most treasured moments with Emilie were the most recent.
A few weeks before we were saying our goodbyes. She was going to Florida to take up residence with Ronda, her daughter. We had let go of our dream of living in the same town.
Then everything changed! Her doctor said, "There is nothing more medically I can do for you." The hospital was releasing her. She couldn't fly to Florida as planned. She was going to a nursing facility to die.
However, it was not her wish to die in a facility. Once Ronda became aware of her wish, not to die in a facility, and the other options available to her, the wheels started grinding. Emilie was on her way to Ridgecrest.
Just after Emilie's arrival, I found out Emilie was fulfilling God's Will. This became apparent when she was sitting on a stretcher just inside my front door waiting for her bed to be set up.
She called me over and whispered loudly to me. "It is a miracle, Trudy. A miracle is happening. I can't explain what I mean. I can see--I can't explain how I feel inside, so different. I love you. I am so glad to be here. I am so hungry." She was full of energy.
In the background, I could hear Tessa Loudmouth Roo (short for the rude kangaroo), my crazy dog, whining because she was locked in the bedroom and wasn't able to properly greet Emilie on her arrival. I could hear Ben or Tanya (her adult children) saying, " She is blind. She only sees shadows."
Other things happened in the days to come that made me question her blindness. There were the birds chirping just outside her window. Emilie spoke of them as is she could see them fly from one limb to another.. I passed it off as her verbal descriptions were coming from her mind's eye, her memories. How else could it be explained? She was considered legally blind.
When it was decided by the nurse in charge the bed that was delivered was not adequate, another was delivered to take its place. Emilie was put in a wheel chair and wheeled into the dinning room, where Tanya (her second daughter) fed her a meal of mashed potatoes, gravy, and Swiss steak. She became irritated and exclaimed loudly, " Keep that fly away from my food!"
Tessa was whining again, but now it was because she wanted Emilie to hurry and finish eating so she could have the leftover and lick her plate.
To Em's outcry Ben (her son) or Tanya said, "There is no fly! You're just seeing black spots/" Then Ben turned to see the fly that had landed right next to her plate. "There is no way she could see that fly! She is blind."
Nevertheless, she saw the fly! And later from her bed, she saw Ben, her son, walking up the walk in his green shirt. She told everyone who it was before we were able to see for ourselves.
How can a blind person see? I for one say she was no longer blind! She could see not only with her eyes, but also with her heart.
At first it was difficult getting Emilie to accept she was not going to get up and stroll down the hall in the middle of the night. Nevertheless she kept insisting. She told me, "Well maybe I could remember I need to relax if I had a picture hanging on my wall that told me, "It is Time to Relax!"
To that I laughed. I really think she had it all planned. She was referring to a picture I had taken from the window of a moving bus in London, England of an old man sitting on a bench next to a big sign, which said, "It is Time to Relax." At the time I took the picture. my heart nearly jumped out of my chest. I wanted to get off the bus right then and go out and help the poor man button his coat correctly. Emilie knew that picture was hanging on my bedroom wall. She wanted it on hers. Of course, she got her way. I brought it in and hung it up after she promised she would try and do what it said.
We both felt this picture reminded us of Ecclesiastes chapter 3 through chapter 12. "To everything there is a season, a time to every purpose under the heaven. A time to be born, and a time to die . . . Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter. Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. For God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing whether it be good or whether it be evil."
Emilie couldn't sleep and neither could I., so we went to the Internet site, classmates. And there viewed and read and remembered all the people we went to high school with and shared our remembrances of the familiar names. Even her brother's name was listed as Joe Jones to which I quickly changed to Joe Bones. We laughed and giggled like we were teenagers again.
This task, along with the occasional licks from Tessa and the rubbing and purring from Kit (my cat) brought smiles to both our faces. We had to check out our e-mail before we signed off.
There was another letter from Sandra. She said she was drooling over her keyboard just thinking of what
Emilie had had for breakfast. Tamales!
We told her, "When you get our age you make your own decisions on what to eat and when and where and with whom. Just wait and see." Emilie was dictating some of this letter as I typed and said it aloud. She input the words into my mouth, fingers, and ears.
It was tomorrow already. We started this e-mail yesterday, but the day slipped away in what seemed just minutes, just like our lives were passing before us in memories.
Emilie and I made plans for the next night and what we would do, but someone else had other plans. she got new meds. When it came time for us to start another pajama party, she was sleeping. Rhonda (Her oldest daughter) had been granted a good QUIET nights sleep on my couch without the loud laughs, giggles, and singing. All our plans were put on hold.
We had planned to write a letter together to thank Sandra for the beautiful roses she had sent and the love expressed to Emilie in the words on the card. But God gave Emilie the "Time to Relax", so I had to do it for her. We had planned to evaluate the news in the world and how it affects us as God's chosen to be on watch as watchmen waiting for his final return.
How the deceptions of the devil's work are so cleverly disguised as Christ's when in actuality it is the work of the devil, the beast, or the antichrist. Each picks away and tempts us to turn from the true Christ, our Lord, Jesus Christ (Who in us we are His). We had been analyzing the concepts.
Emilie had asked if I would take her to Church. I said, "We need not worry of gathering in a man made building. Instead, we as His elect, carrying the temple of God in Christ in us have only to open our hearts to him and each other. For through Christ, Our Lord and Savior, the corner stone of our church within us, uses each of us to fulfill God's Will, His Will, not our own."
How if we are his brethren we are known by our fruits, and how (like the mustard seed) they (our fruits) grow when God's elect join together to pray to Our Father Who Art in Heaven, asking as sinner's to be allowed to fulfill His Will.
God's Will leads to eternal life through our joining together in Christ (Our Cornerstone). He is our foundation. Emily and I joining together in prayer, through our hope and faith, which is in Jesus Christ, became His church.
And how, with the faith of that mustard seed, we as two disabled individuals were able to move mountains even when we were constantly reminded by everyone and by the world that we are unable to care for each other.
Through our love for each other and with the help of Tessa and Kit and the Ridgecrest Hospice Care, We have proved the world wrong. Tessa stood guard during the day and met everyone, friend and foe, at the front gate. Kit worked at night keeping watch over Emilie and waking me if Emilie woke during the night.
we needed only our faith, given us by God as a gift, to move the mountains. God provides for the needs of His elect. Emilie and I knew our gift from God, our faith, was moving that mountain to achieve His Will. Because we love each other, we are known as brethren. Through our faith in Him, as a gift from God (not of our own doing or through our own earnings by doing), and the work of the Holy Ghost in us, we were made able to move mountains and make our dreams and prayers come true.
The majority of the religious world feels their acts earn them the blessings of God. They feel they earn the blessings of God of their own free will, making God a debtor who must reward them fro their righteousness. When in actuality we are all debtors because we are all sinners and because God's word tells us ". . . We are all as an unclean thing, and all our righteousnesses are as filthy rags, and we all do fade as a leaf, and our iniquities, like the wind, have taken us away (Isaiah 64:6).
I thought my cat, Kit, had graced Emilie with something she had brought in from outside. Anyways, she was running around her room, acting like a kitten and playing, trying to earn herself a reward. I warned her not to bring any birds in here because Emilie has a perfect view of them out the window. The chirping sound provides her a perfect view. Her view is beautiful.
God does not have us work for His blessings. God does not give rewards for our obedience, nor does he set a definite timetable for salvation.
Instead, good works and obedience reveals the Will of God. Good works and obedience is the evidence and the fruits of a true living faith. The children of God merely reveal their gratitude by glorifying God who has saved them by His Grace, by encouraging the brethren, and by their profession of the gospel.
Emilie left this world as she came in, beautiful (as a baby in Christ) nearly bald, with her blue eyes flashing the love she sees all around her. I know she was in Christ by her ability to forgive. The Lord had said to "love those who despite-fully use you and persecute you."
Emilie had no hard feelings toward anyone, not even those who had wronged her. She told me, "I love them." Only God can give one the ability to forgive completely and fully. Emilie is one of His.
She greeted everyone that came to see her with open arms and a big smile and sometimes even a hug. Pete (my former husband) almost got away without getting his hug. I told him, "Em will be upset if you don't put your hand on hers and say something." As soon as he did, her big blues came open, she sat up in bed, and she reached over for her hug. Pete was surprised for she appeared to be sleeping. But she was playing possum with her eyes closed. I had told him, "She isn't asleep. She is just tried of looking at my ugly mug all the time."
Emillie Marquez, my best friend and sister, passed away at the house we shared in Ridgecrest for just a short time. Her passing was peaceful. I will miss her greatly. One of the last things she said to me was, "Thank you, Trudy. I love you."
To which I answered, " I should be thanking you. I have been blessed by your presence here."
She questioned, "Really?"
"Really," I answered. "I love you too, now and forever." Emilie was a joy to the end. I thank God for blessing me with such an honor. Giving alone is not enough for as St Paul explains in Corinthians Chapter 13 "If I have not Charity, I am nothing."
Galatians chapter 5:1-26 provides good reading if you are interested in what God wants for His elect to understand.
I pray everyone who reads this will come to know the Lord through His Word. Thank you for reading or listening to what I have titled: Emilie's Miracle.
-Trudy Martinez-
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